Monday, 20 October 2008

Forgive me...

Dear Blogger -

Forgive me, it has been three days since my last post. I FORGOT that I was doing Blogtoberfest, and didn't even turn the computer on over the weekend...

This is what happens when the weather is beautiful, and the kids' social lives require Mum's Taxi...

Can you just explain to me though please, why are other parents so judgemental? When you see a child acting up, throwing a tantrum, can you not do what my Mum has done, and smile, saying: "You are doing a wonderful job"?

Why do I have to explain that my child has a neurological condition that renders him a toddler at times? Do you even care that he and I are upset enough?

It is tough yakka carrying a child mid-tantrum when he is a tall and kicking near-seven-year-old. I don't need your sneers as well.

Keep it to yourself. I envy that your child can manage in social situations, at lunchtime in the playground, at mealtimes. It may seem like nothing to you, but we would give anything for him to be happy, relaxed, and accepted.

End of Rant.

j

10 comments:

Leah said...

Sorry to hear that. I've smiled (with empathy) in a similar situation, and been told off in no uncertain terms to go and laugh at someone else. Must have been a real bad day!

JustJess said...

Oh no! That is no good Leah! She must have been having a shocker. Either that or has had a bad experience in the past. Or was just a grumpy bum...

Nicola said...

Good rant and don't worry about the ignorant people. You know you are doing a good job.

CurlyPops said...

I usually smile and give them the 'can I be of assistance' look. I feel terrible when I see a poor mum trying to deal with situations out of her control.
Next time - stick your tongue out at her!

Christie said...

Funny how parents can be so UNsupportive of each other. Aren't we all on the same side!? It is never fun dealing with a child (of any age) having a public meltdown, as if you need extra stress!!

PS you ARE doing a great job :-)

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear that. Your a great mum and you do a fantastic job with both the kids. Keep up the good work!

trash said...

Surely any parent or carer would empathise? Whatever size the child we have all experienced the public meltdown.

I'm with CurlyPops - stick your tongue out next time!

Bells said...

I can see how that would be hard to take!

Jacqueline said...

I reckon Christie has this one in a nutshell. I have to say that I've been amazed in recent years at how parents turn on each other and often it's the women. Some of my friends have had awful things said to them by complete strangers and it never fails to surprise me. I hope she gets a really itchy rash!

Cindy said...

I can so appreciate what you are saying. My hubby works allweekend so I am always the only one taking them both out and the looks from people, and comments - I get all the good ones. I am lucky though I guess as Caleb is 4 so people I guess are less judgemental than an older boy. I think we are dealing with the same thing - you left me comment on my blog a month or so ago and I left one on yours as I didn't know how else to contact you and then forgot all about it until this post.